Take a look now, I dare ya! I’ve been looking in mine for years. Here’s some things I found out:
? My inability to say ‘no’ and often uncontrolled drive to please people is due to my strict upbringing. Indian girls are meant to be quiet and serve. I never take first place.
? My hard work ethic is driven by an upbringing where work was the most important thing and a lot of it went on. I will outwork most people.
? My strong tendency to shy away from confrontation and conflict is driven by painful experiences of just that, many years ago. It triggers me into anxiety.
? My insane love for dogs was driven by always having one for most of my life. They are my absolute favourite furry beings.
? My extreme desire to excel in my career is driven by a need to prove myself, as unconditional love was not freely given in my childhood. I had to earn it.
? My focus on empowering myself is driven by observation and experience of female dis-empowerment since young. I’m breaking the cycle.
We could go on… for days. Because 95% of your adult life is linked to your childhood experiences.
All your insecurities, confidence, relationship dynamics, financial situations, level of resilience, ability to regulate emotions, assertiveness, submissiveness and so on – all stems from there. There’s no escaping it, it’s just how the human psyche develops.
If you’re happy with all that – crack on. 😀
If you feel like things could be better – start now!
? You can raise your self-awareness by observing and investigating.
? You can start your self-mastery by practising and changing.
? And you can experience your self-transformation that results.
The power is yours. Use it!